Relationships and Learning by Shamonica Pittard

Ninth grade for me was fun yet crazy. I experienced so many different things to the point where I thought I died, came back alive, and lived again. I met many different people; some friendships lasted while others hit rock bottom. I was in this relationship with this guy who I thought was amazing and I felt he couldn’t do any wrong in my eyes. One day, however, he began to lie to me. When I found out he was cheating on me, I couldn’t take it anymore.

He became abusive and even though I didn’t fear him I knew that I needed to get out of that before it was too late. Being with him after this affected my everyday life tremendously; my grades dropped, I lost friends, and the Shamonica everybody use to know was no longer there.
This made my life feel empty and being that my mother never wanted me with him from the beginning I was afraid to talk to her. I had no choice, though, I was in trouble and needed my strong right arm to support me. She told me what I needed to do to end the situation and I did just what she told me. From that point on, we’ve been separated. We’re still friends, but he’s just not boyfriend material.

From this experience, I learned to not let anything such as a relationship get the best of me and take my pride. You should be happy and love yourself before you can be happy and love somebody else. That experience also taught me to listen and not take people for granted no matter what the situation is. This experience has done a lot to me and it helped me grow over the years. Honestly, if I could replay the whole thing I think I would, but I would like to put him in my shoes so he could know how it feels to be hurt and lied to.

Freshman should learn that being in high school is a big thing, and they shouldn’t let anything, especially a guy or a girl, get in their way. They may not be with you forever and they won’t help you if you fall down and need a hand. My advice to you guys would be come to high school with a clear mind and be prepared to learn and grow. You can be in a relationship, just don’t let it interfere with your learning.